IVF: Telling People

It's kind of silly, considering the fact that I blog about it all the time (this is kind of becoming an IVF week for me on the blog considering it's the third time I've mentioned it this week), but I find it kind of difficult knowing exactly how to come clean with people I know about the IVF. Mr Click doesn't share this issue at all. On our last trip to the Nuffield one of our postmen came up to wish me good luck!

Mr Click, probably telling someone else we're having IVF. ;-)

Telling people doesn't bother me. I'm happy for them to know. What I struggle with is exactly how to tell them. It's been something that's been kind of hanging over my head at work recently because I've wanted to tell people, but I just didn't know how to bring it up in conversation.

I suppose it's different when you're talking to people you haven't seen for a while; they ask you how you are, you announce that you're having fertility treatment. When it's people you see every day and talk to all the time, it becomes harder to work it into conversation, and the longer you wait to bring it up, the harder it becomes.

Luckily my last Nuffield appointment gave me the perfect opportunity to finally come clean. I'd been telling everyone about my experience with the needle and my rear end and one of the women asked me what I was away for. She'd given me the perfect out if I didn't want to say what it was for, but suddenly I realised that this was the chance I'd been waiting for.

So I said 'fertility treatment', which prompted a discussion and now it's all out in the open. Which is fantastic, because it takes a lot of pressure off of me - if I don't feel one hundred percent I can tell people and they'll understand why. I was worried that it might put more pressure on me (what if it doesn't work? What if my cycle gets cancelled?) but I don't think it will, these are people I see virtually every day and I'm glad that they know what's going on. I've seen so many posts online from people who don't want to tell others that they're having fertility treatment and have to come up with various excuses for what's going on.

I know that different people will feel differently about sharing such a huge experience, but I'm glad that I've chosen to share.