Tuesday, 11 April 2017

#atozchallenge Letters to my Embryos: I is for Independence

Welcome to Day 9 of the A to Z Challenge, an April blogging challenge where you aim post every day during the month following the letters of the alphabet (with every Sunday bar the last one off).

In the past I've used the challenge to blog about my infertility and the IVF process. I'm following a similar theme this year as we wait to begin the process for a Frozen Embryo Transfer, having completed a Freeze All IVF cycle in February.

We currently have nine embryos sitting on ice, my little bubbles, and this April I am blogging to them about the process of how they came to be.

Dear Bubbles,

I often find myself wondering if you might be a little more independent than other people's offspring. No, seriously, bear with me.

Most people are with their mothers for a full nine months, then they're born and they spend even more time with people. Babies are pretty demanding and need a fair amount of attention after all.

But you did pretty well without me for those first five days of your development. You were conceived without me there; you grew from two cells, to four cells, to eight, developed into a morula and then a blastocyst all without me there to cheer you on (I was cheering you on, I was just 45 miles away at the time). What's more, embryos develop better without any interruption. So you did have a caregiver (in the shape of the wonderful embryologists) looking out for you along the way, they mostly just had to make sure you had a cosy petri dish and a good spot in the incubator.

And you obviously coped admirably, all on your own. Which is what makes me wonder if you might not be a little bit more independent than all the other people who didn't begin their lives under carefully controlled lab conditions.

I don't think there's actually been any studies done on this, so perhaps we'll never know. If nothing else, you were very independent at the critical time when you needed to get on with things without any help from me. So I wonder if that will continue on through your life.

I'm looking forward to finding out!

All my love,

Your Mum.


  1. It's interesting to see how far science has come in the last 100 years that this is possible.

  2. I hope you keep us updated! It can be slightly disconcerting when they start to show independence - my 16-year-old's just started as an apprentice hairdresser and it feels a bit unreal. On the other hand, it's good for them to start having some responsibilities.

  3. That's an interesting wondering. May all our children be the perfect blend of independence and interdependence - knowing we're all connected and all unique expressions.

  4. I don't know if they will feel more independent than other children but love still comes into my head. Since I see many parents who have made their children dependent on them..meaning they have their children live with them well into their 20's and 30's and they have never left home! The wish is to have the children be independent...but still come home for some love and roast beef:)

  5. I think you're on to something. He or she will probably not be a clingy baby!

  6. Maybe I missed it, but when do the little bubbles get to graduate? I'm looking forward in following that journey.

    My A-Z post The Genealogy Search Continues:
    J is for Jewish Genealogy

  7. It would be fun to watch -

  8. Independence is a good thing. I have no doubt you will raise strong children.


Let me know what you think. :-)